Everyone here is so kind and supportive. I guess it is because we all have something in common. It is our interest in saving money for retirement someday.
I am on a couple of other forums. I get jumped on constantly, made fun of and ridiculed. Yesterday, someone used my user name (there are no rules on this forum) to say unkind things about a friend of mine. I was playing bridge at the time and did not know until 2 friends sent me an e mail to see if that was me.
It is very unpopular to talk about saving money. I was even accused of hating people who live in trailers and do not drive corvettes!
That is so far from the truth!! When I met my husband, he had a trailer. When my best friend moved to Knoxville, I encouraged her to buy a used trailer to build up some equity.
As for cars, what do I care what anybody drives. Most people have kids, corvettes do not work when you have kids! Drive what you want. I happened to marry a "car" guy. So what??
What do people find it so interesting to follow me from site to site? They even told people on the forum to follow me over here and read my "stupid" advice. Why would they want to do that? They have no interest in saving money or living a frugal, happy life!!
Bless you people! I never hear an unkind word on this forum.
I have $5 to add to my challenge money. the braves won 2 games in a row and I won three games of Mah jone.
Prev. total $19,697.00
today 5.00
new total $19,702.00
I love this place!
August 12th, 2008 at 02:57 pm
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Anyway, I think it is just something about the internet. Makes you more faceless and nameless, so many people feel completely comfortable being idiots I guess.
As such, I have found a very comfortable home here. But I really in general stay away from online communities. I can't say in the long run I have made many friends. & too much drama. I have gravitated away from online and back to the real world, with time.
Which is a shame. It is a neat medium. I guess a place like this gives me hope. I love this place too.
August 12th, 2008 at 03:03 pm 1218549832
We have kids and a Corvette - this happened yesterday. beautiful day in the Midwest. DH is asst. soccer coach and takes the 5 year old to practice from 6:00 to 7:00. I take the dancers to class from 7:00 to 8:00 and have other sleeping kids in the car. I cannot take the 5 yo with me because DH doesn't have enough room for the two dancers in the Vette. I cannot drive the Vette because it is stick-shift. What do we as parents do? Waste gas, drive home, have DH turn around and go back in the other gas guzzler minivan for the dancers while I went home and move the sleepers to their beds.
So much for Vette! They are neat though on a date night. And I agree, I like this Forum a lot. Hang out here rather than in the other one. Well, use your name, too. Like "I'm a glad I'm friends with Ima!"
August 12th, 2008 at 03:09 pm 1218550177
I know I have a way different outlook than lots of people on Saving Advice, politically, religiously and in many other ways. We even save and spend money differently. Yet everyone stays supportive and civil and we don't break off into factions or insult each other. I've never come across an online community quite like it.
Thank goodness for you guys!
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As for your advice being "stupid", well, if it irks them THAT much, they certainly aren't saving!
August 12th, 2008 at 04:30 pm 1218555034
Perhaps some are so jealous of your life that they fail to realize how hard you and your husband have worked to get to that point in the first place.
Frankly, we can all turn our financial life around. We can all work on having a better life. But it can't happen if people won't stop blaming others and start taking action for themselves.
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Ima, as the #1 poster, you are like the "matriarch" of this blog family and a good example to those just starting to get their finances in order. You are always sweet and welcoming to newcomers, and your posts are fun to read... I wouldn't bother with those other forums. Like my DD2 would say, "Mean people suck!"
When you have attained the kind of financial security you have, through years of hard work and consistent saving, you are entitled to have 25 Corvettes if it makes you happy. You are not hurting anyone, it's YOUR money, and since you can't take it with you, you should enjoy it.
Now, about people who drive Corvettes but can barely pay their bills and have no savings...
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I feel pretty disgusted when people are just plain rude and damn, and make an argument for nothing. Geee. Get a life!
We're very fortunate that we have wonderful group of people here, and I really like it this way.
August 12th, 2008 at 10:28 pm 1218576516
Keep your chin up Ima.
August 12th, 2008 at 11:03 pm 1218578619
We have parties, cook outs, lunches and even did a benefit yard sale. I am sure we will all be friends for many years to come.
I wish some of these 30 year olds attacking me would realize that I had some pretty lean years when I was young too.
Work hard and pay yourself first!!
August 13th, 2008 at 12:52 am 1218585137
I'm much happier, and hopefully more appreciated, here at savingadvice. You are too, Julie.
August 13th, 2008 at 01:50 am 1218588654
I appreciate and learn from you, Ima. So don't worry about others who criticize. I get criticized a lot as well, mostly from people whose financial situations aren't as stable as mine. Usually the criticism revolves around spending more money on "up to date" fashions, shoes, "stylish" haircuts, and the list goes on and on.
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You rock !!!! :-)
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August 22nd, 2008 at 09:56 pm 1219438574
I just came across this posting. I too am a follow savingadvice colleague and friend. I absolutely love your blog, too. First of all, you are youthful, refreshing, and I love to read about your experiences. What I love about you, you enjoy your life while saving money, and working towards your goals.
Do not be discouraged or offended by "haters." They are envious and jealous. They are mad, because they desire your life. Keep on being the "Queen" of the finance blog.
I love your writing, realness and blog. You go girl!!!
Sharman
August 27th, 2008 at 04:33 am 1219808011
Keep your chin up!
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