Yesterday, my husband received a call on his cell phone from his brother's wife. He was on his way to his job. (He is a builder)
This is amazing, because SIL has never called us, even once, in the 40 years we have known her.
She is very quiet and never talks unless you directly ask her a question. This drove my MIL crazy!
She has also NEVER invited anyone over to her house.
We have never been inside of their house and neither had my FIL and MIL (or his live in girlfriend after MIL passed) When they would spend Thanksgiving and Christmas together, BIL, SIL and their kids would always come over to FIL's house. Poor FIL's girlfriend always had to do all the cooking, cleaning and the dishes. She was in her 80's and that is a lot of work for an elderly lady.
She called to ask for money to pay the cremation bill. When my husband suggested that they just pay a few hundred dollars a month until they sold some of the estate, she stated that they did not have a few hundred, they lived paycheck to paycheck! (He owns his own business and makes over $100,000 a year plus she works full time too.)
They inherited a house full of antiques; collectibles from a life time. They could sell them, the house (which is a duplex) and there are four antique packards. (from the 40's and 50')
Dh told her he would talk to me and let her know.
Last night we wrote a letter explaining that we did not feel like we should pay for the final expenses.
We have paid part of the house taxes for 15 years and for all the housecleaning this year. We are not asking for any money. DH (nor I) was even mentioned in the will.
I am hoping that BIL and SIL can catch up on all their outstanding debt once they sell the house and that they will learn a lesson. They need to learn how to live within their means and advoid debt.
Just last month, husband's brother went on a 2 week fishing trip to Canada that cost him $3500. (which he put on credit cards) They live far beyond their means and our bailing them out will not teach them a thing.
It is sad when this happens when a parent passes. Unfortunately, I think this is all too common.
When my mother died, my sister, who was 9 years my elder, (I was 32) moved into my mother's house the following week and changed all the locks. I never got any of my mother or father's possessions, not even a picture. I know pictures would mean a lot to my husband right now.
Now, my husband feels like he has no family left. Fortunately, he has me. He told me the other day that I was his best friend. That means a lot to me.
Another plea for money!
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