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Does it bother you??

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1. ceejay74 Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 02:29 pm 1217946596
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   I know what you mean, but we're the lucky ones, Ima! I'm very similar; I don't wear makeup and I keep my hair short and rarely style it because I'm no good at that. I can't tan so I don't even try. I like wearing skirts and cute dresses, but from Target or thrift stores, and only with comfy sandals or flip-flops. I sometimes worry because my husband's so good-looking and has a British accent and there are all these cute girls around town dressed to the nines. But he tells me he can't even see any of them, and that none of them compares to me. He's always got his arm around my waist or my hand in his.
   
   The girls who have to go to great lengths to get men to pay attention to them have it much harder than you and me, with a great guy at our beck and call.

2. Ima saver Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 02:59 pm 1217948381
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   Oh yes, I forgot to mention that the women are all so tan too. We live in the mountains, so they must all go to tanning beds to get tan. Tanning beds are NOT for me!

3. rob62521 Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 03:01 pm 1217948466
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   I often wonder about these women who have to buy the newest, best, up to date fashions and be "perfect" -- do they really see themselves as "perfect" or do they see flaws and hope to cover them up? I think a lot, not all, are pretty dissatisfied with themselves and their lives so they fill the void by having all this and getting a face lift or lipo or whatever. I'm indeed fortunate that my hubby loves me for who I am, I'm overweight, don't wear makeup, and have problems getting may hair to look OK. He likes my humor, sarcasm, and especially my cooking! He often says those "beauties" are really pretty shallow.

4. HELPmefriend Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 04:13 pm 1217952832
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   Gretchen Wilson sings a song about a woman and how she doesn't need money to be happy.
   
   "Victoria Secret, well their stuff is reall nice.
   Yeah, but I can buy the same damn thing on the Wal-mart shelf half price,
   and still look sexy, just as sexy, as those models on t.v.
   No, I don't need no designer tag to make my man love me.
   You might think I'm trashy, a little too hard core, But in my neck of the woods I'm just the girl next door.
   Hey I'm a red neck woman, I ain't no high-class broad."

5. monkeymama Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 04:45 pm 1217954717
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   I am about as low maintenance as it gets.
   
   I think it is sad so many women think they have to go through all that to be beautiful. Truthfully.
   
   Anyway, confidence goes a long ways.
   
   I could say I am lucky my spouse loves me for me, but when I Was young and dating I never had much trouble finding a date. So if you think your looks depend on all that stuff, it's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
   
   If you are comfortable in your own skin you probably find a better mate anyway (better than one who is looking for all the fakeness).
   
   On a day-to-day basis I don't want all the hassle, but I can be a tad froo froo. My husband hates it when I get out the makeup and nail polish. So I guess you have to be careful there. I did too good finding someone who doesn't like all that stuff. But he loves me enough to put up with my froo froo spells. Hehe!
   

6. Laura Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 07:10 pm 1217963425
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   I live in Houston, Texas, in the River Oaks area... the land of plastic surgery and big oil money... The women here are outrageous in their clothes and hair and makeup and face lifts. I frequent a Starbucks and hang out with a group of really cool "normal" people and we get a kick out of watching the rich and semi-famous (in their own heads) pulling up in their Mercedes to get their venti drinks. I have lived around this all my life, yet I still buy my clothes at Target, wear jeans and flip flops and live a very minimal life. My only indulgence is a pedicure once every 6 weeks(it is my only pampering and I love the foot massages that come with them all for only $25). My boyfriend is from Italy, the land of high fashion, and yet he tells me all the time how he loves that I am not high maintenance and look more beautiful then the women with their eyebrows pulled back into their hairline.

7. nance Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 10:30 pm 1217975455
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   I can SO relate to what you say! I, too, don't spend much on clothing, and doing whatever in considered "in".
   I've never had a manicure, pedicure, or gone to a tanning booth. I haven't had my hair professionally cut in 20 years. My makeup comes from Wal-Mart, but I feel and look good. My husband's best friend has a wife who is extremely "high maintenance" and spends like there is no tomorrow. My husband appreciates who and how I am, and lets me know!
   If we feel confident, and happy in our own skin, that is all that matters!
   

8. frugaltexan75 Says:
   August 5th, 2008 at 11:22 pm 1217978529
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   I hate to say it - but my mom is definitely one of those "high-maintenance" women. She almost always dresses to the nines, has her hair cut, styled and colored at least once a month, has had at least one face-lift, recently got botox, etc.
   
   I think she's kind of given up on me in that area. My clothes are largely from Walmart, sometimes Kohls or Ross, a very few from JC Penny's. I get my hair trimmed and highlighted *maybe* twice a year. 90% of the time the only makeup I wear is mascara. My favorite hairstyle is the one that takes less than two minutes to put together. I *do* like to get manicures and pedicures - but rarely do (unless I do them for myself.)
   
   

9. greengirl Says:
   August 6th, 2008 at 12:19 am 1217981951
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   You have to think though, all that money those women spend on making themselves 'look good' is probably doing them harm anyway. Tanning beds? cancer. Facelifts? stunned mullet expression. Nailpolish? chemicals. High heels? collapsed arches. The latest clothes? think of the waste they must create from only wearing the latest fashions.
   
   I'm not saying I don't wear makeup, high heels, nailpolish etc sometimes (though i never would use a tanning bed!) but not all the time, and only for special occasions like a wedding.

10. SicilyYoder Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 12:33 am 1217982785
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    That was what my last PR person was trying to make me into- and I hated it!!! I had always wore very little make-up ( if any at all), and wore my hair long, in a bonnet or ponytail. I became depressed trying to be, "the popular" person she was trying to make me be, and, to be truthful, when I read posts on here, and stepped back and took a hard look, I realized just how crazy it all was, and began to take my own blog back. I LOVE clipping coupons, packing my lunch, and saving money- that is the real me.

11. cptacek Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 03:28 am 1217993335
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    Oh, I know how you feel. When I am home with DH, most of the time I am helping him with something on the farm. That means getting dirty, oily, wearing a baseball cap or cowboy hat for shade (the baseball cap looks ridiculous on me, I think, but necessary), no makeup, clothes get dirty, dirt under the finger nails, etc. Then, we go to one of his friend's houses and their wives come out looking good, with nice hair and makeup! I feel like such a clod.
    
    I've heard him talk about high maintenance women before, though, and he feels sorry for guys who have to live with that. So it is just MY self esteem that has trouble...he is just fine with how I am!

12. Broken Arrow Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 12:16 pm 1218025002
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    Not that I'm filthy rich or anything, but even if I am, there's no way I would put up with a high maintenance woman. I mean, it does not have to be super low-maintenance or anything, but not high maintenance. Can't go there. Would drive me crazy.

13. Ima saver Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 02:18 pm 1218032299
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    I agree, B.A. All those women were complaining about how they need to get things done to their homes, but they can't afford it. If they would not spend so much money needlessly on themselves every month, they could do other things. I asked one of the women who handled the money in the family. She said, my husband!! I know why!!

14. Analise Says:
    August 6th, 2008 at 04:52 pm 1218041579
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    It would not bother me to go to a party where everyone else was more dressed up and had apparently spent lots of $$ on nails, tans, clothes, etc. We make choices and Ima, you choose to wear 8-year-old sneakers, dress frugally, and wear no make-up. I am sure you still looked very nice but from your post, it seems you might have felt a little uncomfortable or out-of-place. You certainly could afford to do the same as the women whose spending habits or appearance bothers you, but it is not important to you.
    
    It would bother me to listen to people complain about not having enough $$ for the basics when they choose to spend $$ on things that are not not necessities (nails, hair salon, tans, expensive clothes, etc.).
    
    Although I consider myself "low-maintenance" (and so does my DH), I do enjoy (and can afford) monthly pedicures and a visit to the hair salon. I also go to a spa about twice a year and because of my job, I have a very nice, classic wardrobe (most of it bought on sale or at an outlet). I enjoy bargain shopping (getting $50 jeans for $17) and dressing as if I'd spent a lot of $$. About 90% of the time, I wear no makeup but am not opposed to dressing up or looking more glamorous when the occasion calls for it.
    

15. Ima saver Says:
    August 7th, 2008 at 08:17 pm 1218140225
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    I do wear make up and when I was younger, i would dress up in a dress and heels to go out to eat. But I am older now and do not work, so I just like to wear casual clothes. I can't remember the last time I bought a dress, plus we have NO stores here. (wal mart, 25 miles one way is it!)

16. Original MomCents Says:
    August 10th, 2008 at 10:41 pm 1218408118
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    well.. I AM a semi high maintenance woman. However, I do not spend lots of money. Even though my husband makes good money I do not see the need to waste it by spending $65 on a sweater. Instead I will go to an outlet mall or WalMart and find one similar at a cheaper price. I get my hair cut bi monthly, but color it myself. I LOVE getting my nails done, but I do it myself unless I get a gift for it. I LOVE to save money, but I also like to look good. I dont see anything wrong with looking good for less. I know the kind of people you are talking about, but I dont think of them as shallow or think that THEY think they are perfect. In fact I know one lady (you know, the one that carries the $800 purse.. that type)and though she looks perfect, her life is a mess. I think in every situation one should not look at the outside appearance and judge. I am glad that Ima felt comfortable in her surroundings. It shows that she is above appearance.

17. CityChick Says:
    August 28th, 2008 at 06:09 pm 1219946969
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    Wow. I really found this thread interesting. I used to be very low maintenance. I would never get my hair done, all my clothes, shoes and handbags were bought on sale, or were gifts from my family. Then I started hanging around a group of women who always bought a lot of exspensive stuff. I had always been pretty and I attracted a lot of attention from men. I think that's why they wanted me to hang out with them. Well, I too was soon bitten by the spending bug and before long, Payless wasn't good enough for me anymore. I wanted (and bought) exspensive shoes, skincare, makeup and bags from high end stores (Neiman Marcus was my favorite)and I started going out at all the "see and be seen" places in my hometown. Soon I was in debt. And the guys who dated me usually only did so to increase their reputations as "players" or use me as a pawn in an attempt to make their ex-girlfriends angry and jealous. I decided to get off that "beauty, debt, depression" rollercoaster and go back to being myself. Yeah it's hard but I'm saving money, and actually learning use the things I have, and I am also meeting people who want to know me for who I am, not what I have or look like. Being high maintenance was depressing, time consuming, expensive, and honestly it was exhausting. No, take it from someone who has been both, low maintenance is the way to go!

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